Narrow Mindbenders

*bubu and juju to reflect my sentiments* 

The Lady was more interested in proving herself right than in getting the best outcome so the conversation started innocently as usual with a question if I had used the blue wash she bought for the white shirts while I was doing laundry. I already knew where this was going and not going to be pretty so I said yes, but we use it while handwashing and not with the machine. 

The thing is, she doesn't ask questions. She just wants to show me where I am wrong without understanding where I am coming from so regardless of my answers, I already knew that she will be angry if I get her to explain something. 

My mistake was to add that kama washes his own shirts *oops!* and her retort was why marry if he has to do his own laundry. Of course, silly me said he likes washing his own laundry and that mode of thinking was so outdated. Women and men do their own laundry and more so now, husbands and wives just share the load without assigning specifics. I could see she was getting more agitated because she said she doesn't believe in all that and will speak to kama about it. Obviously, I have said more than I should so I just brushed her off (I was cool about this) and made my exit. 

I couldn't help but wonder where the hell that comes from and why. This is to avoid being narrow-minded about narrow-minded people *hahaha* Between me and Kama we considered some possible reasons for her behaviour and came up with a list to include : 

1. Life circumstances - she is lonely and needs an outlet to vent and rant. 
2. Past negative experiences - divorce and prolonged separation I guess
3. Mental illness - onset dementia due to age 
4. Low self-esteem - or her narcissism 
5. Other things - jealously towards us? or the fact that she ever told me to know my place. for the life of me, I still can't figure out what she meant by that. 

In the end, this is a recurring theme with The Lady and if we consider returning back here for good to be an option then I guess we will have to keep being assertive, respectful of her age and not escalate the situation. A huge note to self is to be reminded that sometimes it's just better to disengage and take a break on occasion. or in this case all the time :p 

The Self Revisited

 

2 years into COVID and after today's catch up with Dre and Susu, I just realised that I still have The Self on the back burner. Dre was talking about moving over to substack when I told her about my plans to do a food blog so I finally sat down to make a choice for The Self Center. Last I was thinking about deleting it forever because it might bog me down in the future. It's a part of me that I want to bury or rather I am ashamed of my long rambles. Then I stumbled upon old entries about the terrors and I sent them to terror 1 who convinced me to keep the blog. 

She found my entries cute! I will definitely try to tinker some more and archive these entries and panicked a bit when I tried to log in and blogger asked me to create another blog! Whispered a prayer and TADAH it is all safe :D 

I have been blogging since 2005 and missed three whole years of NOT writing. I think safe to say that I could have moved to pen and paper in those missing years or just updated random thoughts on the Journey app. Welp!! Now I am back with proper capitalisation for my sentences but will still use the least amount of diacriticals where possible. 

Dre made me realise that I miss writing for myself so I am BACKKKKKKKKKKKK. In the pandemic era *nuff said* if for nothing else then I want to keep it alive longer for the terrors. The substack I will use for a small project to do with Dre and concentrate on food. Just for shits and giggles, also to fulfil my initial goal of writing that recipe book that I wanted to do here in KL. Everything evolves...I have evolved! Or at least I believe I have :p 

Now off  pour faire mes devoirs pour le cours de français~