Narrow Mindbenders

*bubu and juju to reflect my sentiments* 

The Lady was more interested in proving herself right than in getting the best outcome so the conversation started innocently as usual with a question if I had used the blue wash she bought for the white shirts while I was doing laundry. I already knew where this was going and not going to be pretty so I said yes, but we use it while handwashing and not with the machine. 

The thing is, she doesn't ask questions. She just wants to show me where I am wrong without understanding where I am coming from so regardless of my answers, I already knew that she will be angry if I get her to explain something. 

My mistake was to add that kama washes his own shirts *oops!* and her retort was why marry if he has to do his own laundry. Of course, silly me said he likes washing his own laundry and that mode of thinking was so outdated. Women and men do their own laundry and more so now, husbands and wives just share the load without assigning specifics. I could see she was getting more agitated because she said she doesn't believe in all that and will speak to kama about it. Obviously, I have said more than I should so I just brushed her off (I was cool about this) and made my exit. 

I couldn't help but wonder where the hell that comes from and why. This is to avoid being narrow-minded about narrow-minded people *hahaha* Between me and Kama we considered some possible reasons for her behaviour and came up with a list to include : 

1. Life circumstances - she is lonely and needs an outlet to vent and rant. 
2. Past negative experiences - divorce and prolonged separation I guess
3. Mental illness - onset dementia due to age 
4. Low self-esteem - or her narcissism 
5. Other things - jealously towards us? or the fact that she ever told me to know my place. for the life of me, I still can't figure out what she meant by that. 

In the end, this is a recurring theme with The Lady and if we consider returning back here for good to be an option then I guess we will have to keep being assertive, respectful of her age and not escalate the situation. A huge note to self is to be reminded that sometimes it's just better to disengage and take a break on occasion. or in this case all the time :p